Posted by starlight on May 26, 2004, at 14:53:36
In reply to Thanks Daisy and Aphrodite, posted by antigua on May 25, 2004, at 22:09:36
I've gone through this too! Only what I discovered is that the angry hateful little girl was actually trying to protect me from getting hurt again. She was there to protect the nicer, loving, more vulnerable little girl from additional pain. So the angry girl tries to keep me from being placed in a situation that I might regret later, but she's so strong that she can also keep me from taking steps that I should.
She's the one who perpetuates the fear. As I understand it, making her realize that my situation is different now, and that she doesn't need to protect me so ferociously, but it's ingrained in her and difficult to let go. She's a protective mechanism. And acknowledging that is very important. She did you a great service by providing you protection. Have you asked her what she wants?
starlight
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