Posted by shadows721 on April 25, 2004, at 23:00:34
In reply to Friday's session (long), posted by fallsfall on April 25, 2004, at 16:47:29
"What is happening is that I am having a major transference with him. I know it is transference because I had the same feelings with my old therapist."
This is very insightful on your part. Why not try and write down a list of what these two have in common. Compare them with your Dad. It appears that these two are doing something similiar.
Maybe it's that you feel unconsciously these two have given you mixed messages??? I mean he says use your feelings not intellect, so you do. Then, it's calm down. hmmm What the rat's behind are you supposed to do then?
Yes, I agree there is some transference, but not all of it. Maybe I am transferring here but this sounds insulting - "I don't think that the way you are thinking about this will be helpful". I would interpret it as he said my thinking isn't correct or I am not thinking right. It's his way of expressing himself that is triggering to me. Why couldn't he had said -"How is this helpful to you?" That's sound's less critical to me and would cause me to reflect.
Okay, now, I am going to share and experience here. I had a t do something similiar to this. I got really upset when talking about a horrendous memory. She interrupted and said to calm down. I told her it took 25 years for this memory to resurface and I am going to express my feelings anyway I damn well please. That's what I pay you to do so listen. So, keep your comments to yourself and just listen. Whew! I got that out of my system. This guy reminds me of a previous t.
Back to you. My personal opinion is that this guy is saying something or talking in such a way that is very triggering to you. It's triggering to me and I am not even there. I would interpret that I wasn't saying what he wanted to hear. Am I just transferring too? hmmmmmmm
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