Posted by Racer on April 25, 2004, at 17:13:47
In reply to Friday's session (long), posted by fallsfall on April 25, 2004, at 16:47:29
I don't really have anything helpful to contribute, but I'm doing Library things, too, this week and thought I'd tell you that. We moved four bookcases in our living/dining room. Three six feet high by three feet wide, one six feet high by four feet wide, all with two rows of books on each shelf. The non-fiction and genre fiction are all pretty much back on the shelves, but the fiction is still all over the floor -- and we'll run out of shelves way before we get the books back up there. We had had books on the tops, but we can't do that again until we buy some more bookends. It's a big job, and that's only the books downstairs...
About the therapy, I wonder if your therapist is hoping you'll stop trying to analyse so much and let him help you find the analysis after you've told him your feelings? I know that I often go in there with a sort of verbal essay: "well, this is how I feel now, because of that happening then, and this is what I need to do about it next..." rather than, "I feel [x]" Giving an oral presentation like that doesn't really help me, because if it did, I wouldn't need therapy at this point, right? So, I've got to learn to back off a little and express the feelings without having the answer already formed, you know? Could that be part of the trouble?
And believe me -- I do empathize with not feeling understood. I probably am hypervigilant about perceived betrayals, but I had one from my therapist this week, and it's really interfering with my hope muscles. I don't think I have transference issues with her, since I am suspicious and distrustful of her still, but it's doubly hard to take when it comes from someone I'm trying so very, very hard to be open with and trying to learn to trust.
Best wishes to us both, eh?
poster:Racer
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