Posted by karen_kay on April 23, 2004, at 19:31:40
In reply to Not being understood, posted by fallsfall on April 22, 2004, at 20:02:29
((((((((((falls)))))))))))))
i'm sorry he's not understanding you right now. it sounds like he's not in tune with what you want and what you need.
but, you shouldn't think that you aren't doing therapy the right way dear. there is no right or wrong way to do therapy darling.
i haven't read the responses, so i'm not sure if this has been posted or not (and i'm sorry if i'm way off course here as well) but it seems like you really want validation from him. which is normal, as we all do. we want our therapists to validate that we are doing a good job, that we are doing good things, that we had a great session, etc. do you feel that he is holding out? perhaps if he made more of an effort to assure you that you were doing a good job in therapy, then you would be better able to communicate with him your feelings? it seems you get upest and then stay silent (as expalined) because you don't want to say something wrong or be misunderstood. maybe if he made more of an effort to validate your feelings and give you more positive reinforcement, you would be better understood?
you shouldn't be concerned with being wrong dear. i know, we are in therapy. and we want to please them, or we want them to be pleased with us. but you are doing great falls. you are doing beautifully falls. you are doing magnificent falls. i'm proud of you falls. you have helped me so much. and you are doing a wonderful job. not just in therapy dear, in life. i'm proud of you. babble is proud of you. everyone is proud of you doll. i mean it!
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