Posted by Crooked Heart on February 18, 2004, at 5:03:52
In reply to You're all easy graders, posted by DaisyM on February 17, 2004, at 9:59:21
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> And I keep coming back to the idea that I still don't understand the rules for therapy. I have allowed my Therapist to provide support and strength and I have confessed the times that he became a life line. But his take on my description was that I still won't let him help me. Maybe I just don't know how to do that. Maybe I should use the cliff analogy and try to figure out how to make that leap.
>My therapist said something like that in similar situations, that I was 'protecting' her and I'd think what else is it that I'm supposed to *do* for heaven's sake, what more *can* I do?
I don't know if this idea might be of any use, but just in case it is. Looking back, it seems as though sometimes she was like a warm comfortable fire and I was a child frozen with cold staying in the chilly areas of the room, not daring to move up to the hearth and enjoy the warmth (in case it was abruptly taken away and then I'd be cold *and* have a big loss?).
(The good part now, is that even although I didn't dare let myself be warmed then, I know the fire was there and I get warm thinking about it.)
Sorry if I've said this already in some post, I'm a woman of few ideas :)
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