Posted by judy1 on October 10, 2003, at 10:09:45
In reply to I'm in love with my therapist, posted by tinydancer on October 10, 2003, at 2:43:19
I would never try to minimize your feelings because I've had them and at the time they are painfully very real. May I ask if you ever met him in a non-therapeutic setting- like school, church, etc.- would you find him attractive? If not, then transference is very much at play here. I'm very glad you have been honest with him because it allows him to help you cope with your feelings. Abandonment is a hot issue for me too, and I'm sure his reassurances help. You sound like you are being honest with yourself- you recognize he is married and has a child- and therefore nothing will likely happen. Don't wish for a 'fling'-I have been there and it almost destroyed me. I would hope your mental health is the most important issue here, and once you feel better you'll be able to form healthy relationships with men in the 'real world' who will be able to return your feelings. I wish you all the best, and know many of us have been where you are and have gotten through it. take care, judy
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