Posted by Jellibabe on October 10, 2003, at 5:47:43
In reply to I'm in love with my therapist, posted by tinydancer on October 10, 2003, at 2:43:19
Dear Tinydancer I know how you feel. I really and truly understand where you are coming from and believe me, I feel for you. It is the most excruciating feeling ever. My feeling is that you have to try to fight it though, because an affair will never happen. You know that in your heart of hearts, but it is so difficult to accept because your feeling of love for him is so overwhelming.
I have also read a lot about tranference, and almost nothing I have read has quite touched on exactly how I have felt. It has inclined to "minimise" the issue, I feel, at times, seemed almost cruel - turned this love issue into an object, instead of something that tears one apart.
Anyway, that is the only suggestion I can make for you is to try to fight it, because you will end up only being more hurt (if that is possible.) Take courage that you are not the only one. Know that every day there are people going through the agony, just like you. I don't know if that helps any though.
Perhaps sometimes we have to learn that there are certain people that we can love but must not expect to get anything in return except perhaps a certain fondness and thats all. I don't know if I am making any sense. Maybe others have better advice. Good luck, and I am thinking about you!
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