Posted by fallsfall on October 7, 2003, at 21:01:42
In reply to Re: I wouldn't (couldn't) tell him - All » fallsfall, posted by deirdrehbrt on October 7, 2003, at 19:05:50
> FallsFall,
> I don't know which is more true, but I think that both of these are:
> You are so incredibly hard on yourself that you have little chance of success in your eyes while others are simply amazed.Possible. But if I'm so wonderful, why is it that I can't get better?
> Your need for connection, especially with people who are there to help you, leads to a need for reassurance for which you are desperate.
Yes.
> Most likely, your therapist has seen nothing for which he will want to drop you as a patient. Maybe you are worried about what you did, and maybe what is going on is the fear of the last time this happened.
This is not the only time I have feared abandonment, and I worry about more than just the searching. Everything that I do seems bad, so everything could be cause for him to abandon me.
> I have seen quite a few different therapists. I have even had a therapist that had me sign a treatment contract. I have never seen or heard a therapist say that it was impropper for me to find a phone number in a book, to look for information that they may have published, or placed in a public forum.
> I think that if they did state rules that forbade that, then I would be obligated to do so, but if they didn't, then they there is no harm in looking.
> Please take care of yourself sweety. Please stop looking for reasons to beat yourself up.But they are so easy to find.
> Dee.
You are sweet, Dee. Thank you.
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