Posted by Poet on October 7, 2003, at 9:28:10
In reply to I wouldn't (couldn't) tell him, posted by fallsfall on October 6, 2003, at 13:51:07
Fallsfall,
I sympathize with you, here, you were being honest and admitted you were searching for information on your therapist and he demanded to know why.
Maybe he was genuinely surpised that you would do that, but I doubt it, I think he was more curious about what you found out, then why you wanted to find it out.
Unfortunately he doesn't seem like he's going to let go of this issue. I have heard the "you are in control" line so much I can say it along with her. We know who's really in control, don't we?
If I were you, I would just stick to talking about why you feel needy and your fear of abandonment. You are right that what you did isn't important, it's why you did it that is. He should see that.
I don't think he would mind that you read psychology books. My therapist recommends and even lends me books on psychology/self-esteem, your therapist shouldn't be threatened by your choice in reading.
Poet
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