Posted by Tabitha on October 6, 2003, at 0:16:26
In reply to Re: More conflict with my therapist, posted by HannahW on October 5, 2003, at 23:25:23
I did try what you said-- about saying that the guy was bringing up uncomfortable things for me. And I explained that men don't seem human to me because I don't connect with them emotionally and intellectually as well as with women. I don't actually believe they're sub-human. She still said she's heard me say things that make her think I hate them. She didn't clarify what.
When this topic used to come up, that I felt hopeless about relating to men, she'd say I felt that way because I'd been hurt by them. That made me feel hopeful-- like it could be healed. But when she tells me I hate them, I just feel like I've done something wrong, and she's going to punish me for it, or quit supporting me, until I change. But I can't access these feelings of hate, or this decision to hate, so I can't change it. It seems like all I can do is quit saying anything negative about men in order to preserve the relationship with her.
Well, I think writing this out has helped me see the problem a little clearer.
You know, having a consultation is a good suggestion, except I have no doubt I could find some therapist who'd be eager to tell me my current therapist is wrong, and sign me up for sessions with them. I'm feeling a bit cynical toward the profession right now!
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