Posted by habbyshabit on September 21, 2003, at 2:45:17
In reply to re: dealing with complexities, posted by lil' jimi on September 20, 2003, at 2:08:57
Hi Jimi and Silvia,
Hope I got your wife's name right. I do appreciate her suggestion to email my Shrink.
As far as a bunker mentality as you described it goes - I would say that he is definitely living within the bunker - me - I'm on the outside looking in - amazed at the complexities of his mind and the absolute belief in the validity of his make believe world. I am an observer not a participant in that sense. I decided that I can't change him or his delusions, but I can be interested in them and honor them as real to him. I do occasionally bring up the psychiatric aspect of what he is going though, as I feel that I would be remiss in my role as a wife who loves and cherishes her mate, to not.
Actually, at the moment we have an aggreement that he'll talk to my shrink at the end of October if this is still going on. He believes the DEA types should have their equipment fixed by then and would thus be leaving him alone. So I says, if they are still around harrassing you, would you consider talking to DR H.? Yes, he would. Will he? Only time will tell.
My shrink knows, though we don't talk about it in front of my husband Our GP knows, but we don't talk about in front of my husband and I haven't had reason to see the guy for anything. My husband might be there anyway. An attorney knows, who we went to
see regarding my husbands civil liberties and any possibility of bring a law suit against the Narcotics squad. The attorney knew after listening to my husbands story, that he was way off the wall. We will be seeing this same attorney on the 9th of Oct. about wills and living wills and power of attorney and stuff. My husband's daugter made some inflamatory statements recently that led to getting on the stick about this, which we had to do anyway.With my Bipolar, it could be used against me to contest any will or power of attorney so we need an attorney to dot the i's right. I don't trust his children at all. And neither does he. This attorney and I have had a few private moments when we have been able to discuss my husbands mental illness. It's been refreshing. I also think that my new jobs could lead to confidences that I don't know of yet. Regardless, I don't have a strong urge of being unsupported. I have you, Jimi, after all!!!!
Good Night Brother,
Hab
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