Posted by lil' jimi on September 20, 2003, at 2:08:57
In reply to re: dealing with connubial complexities, posted by habbyshabit on September 20, 2003, at 0:28:27
hi Habby,
> I sent a good long email to my Doc and the receptionist said she forwarded it to him. >
great !
print one out for reference and for your journal ...
> Would you explain "bunker mentality" a bit more to me. > Habsorry ... ... i would never have meant to offend ... nor confuse ...
i meant it like 'seige mentality', with the oppression that comes from being beseiged ... ...
... yet here in the sense that he feels ("knows") that he is under seige, and he takes you with him by keeping his delusions a secret that only you share ... ... in the way that it isolates him, he isolates you ... ... in the sense i intended, the bunker was just the expansion of the setting for the seige ...
... i just found this stronger meaning ...bunker mentality
NOUN: An attitude of extreme defensiveness and self-justification based on an often exaggerated sense of being under persistent attack from others.
http://www.bartleby.com/61/22/B0552250.html... this is the sense in which you are being held hostage by his bunker mentality ...
of course, you know all these things ... i just wanted to offer you the knowledge that i know them too ... because i don't think enough people in your direct support system know these things ... ... i feel you need outlets that know these things ... ... at very least your psychiatrist should know ...
... being able to open up and confide in someone present, is a human need ...
... this tragedy gets compounded by your needs for a husband who can provide that communion ...... know that i have you in my heart and that i feel for you and for him ...
take care sweet spirit,
~ jim
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