Posted by Medusa on October 8, 2002, at 2:10:56
In reply to Re: mother - and Freud? help!, posted by Tabßitha on October 8, 2002, at 0:52:42
Hi Tabßitha,
> It may seem odd to talk about your mom when your problem is needing to get a job,
>Well ... somehow it feels right, like a spot of gangrene I've tried to keep restricted to one area, but that's been poisoning my entire system.
>feel compassion for my fear of moving forward.I'm glad that this is working ... I might just try it, too.
> therp helping you make any progress on the jobhunt in the meantime?
>I think so ... I also had a smaller block about the job search, since I felt like getting a job would mean leaving DH (or +having+ to stay with him if he gets a job in the same city), in short I was really, really conflicted, and she said to just separate the areas, and she told him to his face that it was possible that once I had a good job, I would figure out that he wasn't what I wanted in my life, and that I would figure out what I owed him and pay him back, and that none of that should stand in the way of my job search. I've looked a bit at one-person apartments in the city I'm job-searching in, and feel much better about all options. All this from a ten-minute section of the last therapy hour.
AND she said, fear is part of the job search, just accept that and move forward through it.
> what was the next thing I needed to do, and how long was I willing to work on it.
>ah, great tip! right now I'm trying to fill in the cover-letter-ish part of an on-line job app, and I can NOT get myself geared up to feeling happy about the job.
> Somehow I finally got thru it all, one torturous step at a time, and ended up with multiple job offers.
>Hey, THAT is a success story. Just what I need for encouragement. Thanks, Tabbitha!
> Fear of losing the only connection I had to my mom, which was being like her (depressed and victimized).
>yeah. I hear you. Our relationship is all about that.
>Any progress on core issues like that makes a huge difference in the rest of your life. You have to take care of practical stuff in the meantime though.
>Ah, that oh-so-hard-to-find balance ...
Thanks once more ... I really savor every bit of encouragement I get.
-M
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