Posted by Ginjoint on October 7, 2002, at 16:33:41
In reply to mother - and Freud? help!, posted by Medusa on October 7, 2002, at 8:12:29
Holy crap, Medusa, can I relate. I'm going through a very difficult job search right now also, and I know how much fun it's NOT. Job hunting involves selling yourself (ewwwww!), and to do that, a lot of us have to overcome some psychic muck. Sometimes, I think job hunting is easy only for simple-minded folk, God bless 'em.
Anyway, I feel the same that all the mother stuff sounds passe -- my pdoc hits me with it too -- but there might be something here worth looking at. There's more to job searching than meets the eye -- not only issues of success and failure come up, but also how life has or has not gone according to what you (or your parents) had planned, and the bittersweet feelings that may follow. We also deal with this when we wonder what our parents think of us as adults, too.
I would go ahead and write the letter...but, when I'm stuck on something I have to write, I DON'T just sit down and force it all out at once. Instead, I keep a pad of paper near me at all times, even when watching T.V. or especially when I'm trying to fall asleep at night. Whenever any relevant thought hits me, I write it down, just briefly. I end up with a series of very short blurbs, and when I feel "done" thinking it out (you'll know when), that's when I sit down and put the points in some coherent order and write it out. The hard part of writing is thinking of EXACTLY what you want to say, and this can take some time, so give it to yourself. I can tell by your post that you're a very thoughtful, literate person, so I know you can do this! I think it will be worth it, too...the clarity you gain might help get you over the hump. Or not. Life's a bitch that way.
Hoped this helped in some way, shape, or form.
Ginjoint
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