Posted by Burt on October 7, 2002, at 14:47:26
In reply to mother - and Freud? help!, posted by Medusa on October 7, 2002, at 8:12:29
Medusa:
Would you trust your doctor if you found out that he is suffering from severe depressions and that he has a major case of cocaine addiction?
Sigmund Freud's work was very important at the time. It revolutionized psychotherapy. But he suffered from severe depressions, and he had a major case of cocaine addiction.
Your question "But ... isn't all this mother stuff really outmoded and passé?" is right on the money. Well, we are all children of our parents. Their genes and our upbringing molded us.
But even assuming that your mother is responsible for your block in your job search: Does knowing that remove the block? Or does it simply give you a reason to go on waffling?
You can't change the past. You can learn from it to avoid repeating it, but you can't change it. All you can do is influence your future.
If I were in your shoes, I would say "!@#$% the past!" And instead of writing a letter to my mother, I would send out 300 resumes.
Also, I would quickly remove the thought "My mother wishes me to fail" from my brain. Very dangerous. Grant her her wishes, and you will fail. Succeed, and you will not give her what your mother wants.
There's only one way out of it: "This is BS. I will sit down now and send out 300 resumes."
poster:Burt
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