Posted by Dr. Bob on December 23, 2013, at 0:41:21
In reply to Re: a crucible » Dr. Bob, posted by Phillipa on December 20, 2013, at 20:53:27
> Wanting to control and ATTEMPTING to control are two very different things, and I think that's a very big problem in our culture, in general. Quite similar to the civility rules here, there is a (mistaken) belief that such things can be legislated successfully and without negative consequences for all. There are a gazillion things I'd LIKE to control, but I know I have no right to do that, and I'm smart enough to know that it creates more problems than it solves.
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> Moishe Pipik> To me one can not control another. Exception being if you had the authority to lock a person up whether in a jail for a crime or a psych unit ... Then one might try to help the person see that changing some ways could be to the person's benefit. That for a variety of reasons also. Would depend on the variables.
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> PhillipaSpeaking of the civility rules, and having authority, has anybody ever felt I saw them as different than me, or that I wanted, or attempted, to control or change them?
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