Posted by Dr. Bob on December 20, 2013, at 10:47:03
In reply to Re: a crucible, posted by SLS on December 19, 2013, at 4:42:52
> > Has anybody else ever felt seen as different than others, or that others wanted to control or change them?
> Someone might try to control me but they can't cause I am me and very strong willed and stubborn.
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> Phillipa> Virtually all my life. Started in school, would have been labeled ADHD or some such nonsense today. Bright kid, bored in class, and willful enough to defy. Parents and teachers were constantly trying to get me to be like the other kids, i.e. compliant. I've never done compliant very well. Similar experiences in the work world as an adult, again where compliance is king, and sycophants flourish. Like cliques in school, the desire for group uniformity excludes all others who don't match.
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> Moishe Pipik> Yes - and not in a good way. It took me awhile to learn that each person is different from any other, whether they feel different or or not. Even identical twins diverge at some point in their evolution as human beings.
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> Being a first-born, I have a tendency to respect authority. However, I never seemed to give authority carte-blanche to act in ways that were in conflict with my belief system. I tend to go out of my way to challenge authority when I feel there is injustice, unfairness, or abuse of power. I usually like to work within the system to effect change unless I feel that the system is corrupt, tyrannical, or does not exhibit a respect for natural law.
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> SLSSo it seems to me at least some posters here have experienced others trying to control them, and have at least sometimes resisted.
Turning it around, has anybody here ever seen others as different than them, or wanted to control or change others?
Bob
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