Posted by alexandra_k on December 21, 2013, at 10:59:11
In reply to Re: a crucible, posted by Dr. Bob on December 20, 2013, at 10:47:03
> Turning it around, has anybody here ever seen others as different than them, or wanted to control or change others?
yeah. i guess that is a fairly standard response to difference.
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"The end of the road" is a great book if you can find it. i think it is mostly out of print... one of the characters is characterized as a person who doesn't have a personality of her own. she just sort of... assimilates isn't quite the word... incorporates... takes on... her husband Joe's personality. he is kind of intense... which, i guess, makes him kinda catchy.
anyhow, he likes to debate. so they debate a lot. there is a sentence or a paragraph or something that describes one of their interactions. where she is continuing to defend her position because she knows that that is what he expects / wants her to do... even though he persuaded her already that she was wrong. or perhaps she never really had her heart behind what she was saying, it was more that she was supposed to pick a different position from his and defend it as best she could.
anyway... i think he hits her at some point because he is trying to get her to stand up for herself / think for herself / be her own person. uh... just like him. ahahaha.
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