Posted by obsidian on May 4, 2010, at 22:56:14
In reply to Re: talking to Babblers, posted by Dr. Bob on May 4, 2010, at 12:07:00
> > Dr. Bob, I wish I didn't get upset when you talk to other Babblers and not me.
> >
> > I just hurt a lot when that happens.
> >
> > Deneb
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> Deneb, thanks for sharing your feelings. I think this might be an important issue for the community.
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> > I think Dr. Bob is a lot to you. He certainly becomes a lot of things to different people. It's normal to want someone to care about you, to care about someone else, but you know there are limits to what you can get here.
> >
> > obsidian
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> Is there anybody else who'd feel comfortable admitting that they'd like me to talk to and care about them?
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> BobI'd like to think you care about "us", the individual "me" is a bit uncomfortable.
I believe you do care about us.
It's funny you know..the way this sort of thing works....the way that prophecies or expectations become realities.
It's something that I try to work with.I realized it when I was young, and life really sucked...that I had to entertain the idea that other people could be just other people, with their own concerns, oblivious to me, despite all the feelings I was having. It didn't mean (and doesn't mean) that I don't still feelings about other people's motives and how they relate to me, but I learned to question myself constantly...it was a bit obsessive, but it served it's purpose ;-). Thankfully, I'm far less obsessive now.
The thing about it was that it was a terribly lonely feeling to know this.
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