Posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 9:49:38
In reply to Re: Dr Bob, posted by Poet on July 8, 2009, at 9:25:51
Poet, I was the Administrative presence who responded to your situation. I did so as best I could in accordance with my understanding of site guidelines and Dr. Bob's wishes. But I think my actions let you down, and I really regret that.
I don't think you should have to risk a PBC to ask for an apology. I don't think you should have to, even if you weren't risking a PBC. I think it is Administration's responsibility to provide an environment where people aren't forced to defend themselves. I recognize that there is value in learning how to stand up for oneself against incivility. But I don't think a mental health support board is someplace you should have to do that. I think a mental health support board is a place where you can go and expect to have an environment where you can feel reasonably safe to post private and personal thoughts.
It may be that my values are out of step with reality or the wishes of the majority here. Perhaps Babble has moved on, and I haven't.
But I don't think it was your responsibility to do anything but be civil yourself. I think it is administration's responsibility to provide the structure of the environment. If the community wishes to try to help those they care about, in terms of encouraging them to recognize that people on an internet board are real people who can feel hurt, or wish to help them reframe the situation so that they can be civil, that's fine.
In my opinion...
It is administration's responsibility to provide a safe environment, as best they can.
It is a poster's responsibility to follow site guidelines, if only because they agreed to do so when they registered to post.
It is the community's responsibility to provide support to each other, in whatever way they feel they are able to do so. I don't think it is any individual's responsibility to provide support to any individual in particular in any particular way.
In particular, I don't think you had the slightest responsibility to do anything but remain civil yourself until Admin responded.
poster:Dinah
thread:905306
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20090707/msgs/905597.html