Posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2009, at 15:21:11
In reply to Re: trying to get a cat out of a tree, posted by Dinah on July 9, 2009, at 12:13:22
> > > I guess if this situation occurs again I will risk a PBC and ask directly for an apology or retraction of the statement which would be an intervention.
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> > asking for an apology or retraction could be ... helpful. What about posting an example request?
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> To me, this is encouraging posters to tolerate incivility towards them, and applying subtle pressure on them to do so.I did encourage Poet to explore her plan. It wasn't my plan. But I guess encouragement could be experienced as pressure. Poet, please feel free not to post an example request.
Incivility in some form is probably inevitable. Even if we approved messages before they were posted, we might consider something civil and others might not. So the question is how to respond. Wouldn't ignoring it actually be more like tolerating it?
> I know the pressure, subtle and overt, applied by peers and by authority figures for the innocent to work things out with the uncivil. I find that I cannot support that in any way shape or form.
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> I understand the value of asking posters to work things out between themselves in cases of squabbles or disagreements. But not in cases like this.How are cases like this different? Or, when should everyone just wait for the fire department? Being able to work things out with someone who's uncivil could be a useful skill to develop.
Bob
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