Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2009, at 12:13:22
In reply to Re: trying to get a cat out of a tree, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2009, at 11:52:49
> But asking for an apology or retraction could be even more helpful. What about posting an example request? You have plenty of civility buddies here!
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> --To me, this is encouraging posters to tolerate incivility towards them, and applying subtle pressure on them to do so. This is against my value system, although I recognize it is not against your value system and may in fact better reflect the value system of Babble as it currently is.
I know the pressure, subtle and overt, applied by peers and by authority figures for the innocent to work things out with the uncivil. I find that I cannot support that in any way shape or form. The innocent should not have to deal with incivility and should not, IMO, be pressured into doing so by you or by other posters.
> That's my goal, too. But it's not always clear to me how to get there. I'm adjusting the course I'm taking. I know change can be disruptive. Thank you all for your patience.
I have tried to roll with the punches as far as your course adjustments. But there are some course adjustments I am unable to take while maintaining my own self respect in terms of my values.
This is one of those times. If this is what's best for babble, I respect that, but I can't personally be part of it.
I understand the value of asking posters to work things out between themselves in cases of squabbles or disagreements. But not in cases like this.
If this is the course that Babble needs, then it needs a deputy who is on board with the change.
poster:Dinah
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