Posted by Dinah on July 7, 2009, at 18:29:09
In reply to Re: BLAMING the COMMUNITY! I've had it!!!!! STOP IT!! » fayeroe, posted by Dinah on July 7, 2009, at 18:13:14
Is it possible for you to more encouraging and less blaming in your introduction of this idea? Not all circumstances are the same. And not all people are called upon to fill all roles. This is after all a mental health site, I think it's reasonable to assume there might be some anxiety and social phobia, and while it's fine to encourage people to help in the way you mention, I don't think those who don't feel able to do what you ask ought to feel guilty.
Maybe some people would be better suited to posting gentle positive support to Poster #2. Nothing negative to Poster #1, but assuring them that they don't think they're a (whatever), and they've always enjoyed their posts. That is a perfectly valid role in the Babble community too.
And I know you don't read every thread, but I think if you look at this as more than one post, you'll likely see that people do encourage posters to follow site guidelines. Either by explaining them, or expressing their feelings about wanting the poster to stay and not be blocked, or in many other ways - some off board. A relationship among babblers can't be judged on one thread. And no matter the support and encouragement from other Babblers, in the end it is the choice of the poster what they wish to do.
So, for example in this instance, wouldn't it be equally valid (and perhaps better received) if you expressed distress that the block happened, support for the second poster, thanks to those who tried to help, and a hope that in the future things will turn out differently and the poster will choose to remain part of this terrific community?
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