Posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on June 21, 2009, at 19:49:43
In reply to Re: This has gotten to the point where policing ne » Amelia_in_StPaul, posted by twinleaf on June 21, 2009, at 14:50:18
Huh? No. What I DIDN'T like was your very uncivil post to me that said "Why can't you just be appreciative..." etc. about psychodynamic therapy?
First, it's accusatory. It is not in line with the rules of civility put down by this board--and I fail to see why you haven't been reminded of that by anyone, like deputies, but me. Second, it is invalidating. And by saying that I am not being fair and accurate in this post, you continue to invalidate my education, my research, my intellect, my ability to evaluate what I read and come to a conclusion. Fourth, you had no right to attack me about my post to Garnet. My post was extremely supporting. I offered her hugs. I offered my sympathy. And fifth, where do you get the idea that I care what you specifically think about CBT? That I feel attacked, by you, about CBT? I didn't say that in my response to you on the psychology board, or in the post you are responding to on this board. That is coming out of nowhere. I have asked for a separate board so that I can talk about CBT, DBT, and other skills-based therapies with others who are interested in them, but that has nothing to do with you.
And finally, what I want to say is this. A thinking person can come to the conclusion that a therapy is not effective. Many, many psychologists have come to that conclusion about psychodynamic therapy. (Um, that's why there's research--so that persons can evaluate therapies and whether they are effective. Some research has concluded that psychodynamic therapy is ineffective.) What I'm wondering is why does my opinioin bother you so much? Are you happy with your therapy? Then great. You don't have to read my posts. You don't have to respond to my post to someone else. And you especially don't have to respond by attacking me, which is basically what you did.
By the way, if you want to read one of my posts on psychodynamic therapy, then you should read all of them. Then you would see that there are aspects about the THEORY that I appreciate, even as I do not appreciate its practice. Also, scroll up and read my posts about having another psychology board for skills-based therapies. Read Jane's post too. It might help you understand the nuances in what I think about psychodynamic therapy--because it is nuanced. Or don't. It doesn't really matter to me. What matters to me is that when you talk to me for the very first time, you respect me. Otherwise, we don't have a need to talk at all.
> Hey! I never said a single word putting down CBT. I in fact called it :great" that you found it so helpful. I do in fact know that it can be extremely helpful, and I am all for it.
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> I was trying to point out that there are people here who need a longer term relationship with a therapist, and that analytically trained therapists can be ideal in providing us what is most helpful. When I say this, I don't mean. at all. that they are the only therapists who can do so , but they are extremely good at it.
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> When I Iook l back at our exchanges I do not see even a hint of my 'putting down" CBT therapy. I was attempting to put analytic therapy along side of it as another valuable modality. But, twice, you have put down psychoanalysis, all the while feeling, apparently, that you need to defend yourself from supposed attacks by me on CBT.
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> On this board, I would like to think that I am exchanging ideas and thoughts with someone who is thinking in a fair and accurate manner.
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