Posted by muffled on November 26, 2006, at 23:22:49
In reply to Re: feeling hurt and feeling bad, posted by Dr. Bob on November 7, 2006, at 0:10:29
> Thanks for trying to understand. Where I'm coming from is, I'd like the general atmosphere to be supportive. That helps make it feel safe in the first place. But IMO, keeping the general atmosphere supportive requires blocks. Which, paradoxically, can make it feel less safe. But hurt from blocks is at least more predictable? As ClearSkies said, they don't come out of the blue.
**I don't disagree w/blocks IN THEIR PLACE.But I talk of this elsewhere.
> > I think it would supportive for the community as a whole to have the previous requests to be civil linked in the blocking post.
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> > ClearSkies
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> I see what you mean, but I'd be concerned about embarrassing them. If they want, they can ask...**Bob, really, I would WAY rather have momentary embarrassment, than to get blocked unexpectedly. The UNEXPECTEDNESS is AWFUL. But that aside, I beleive ALL possible blocks should each have their own individual warning. I don't understand the need to be so harsh. I have a TERRIBLE memory, so I don't remember stuff. But I talk of this elsewhere too...
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> > Is it true that technically, once a person has received one PBC *ever,* they may be blocked immediately with no warning from then on. And that this does in fact happen.
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> It's true, that sometimes happens. People should take that first warning seriously.***Oh SH*T on THAT Bob. A warning elsewhere, bout something else, has got sweet piss all to do with it IMO.
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> > its extreemly possible, perhaps in many cases probable, that the poster DOES NOT REALIZE that he/she is crossing the civility lines.
> I agree, that's possible. But it's an issue if someone doesn't see what they're doing. Sometimes posters help each other keep track of where the line is (or at least might be). I think that's a good approach.**Ahhhh, so utopian.......So full of sh*t....
Sometimes............
Not good enough if you get blocked. And sometimes they help in a very oblique way, and I just don't get it.> Being blocked doesn't confirm you're a bad person. Though you may react by feeling that way.
**What DOES being blocked mean?????????????
GOOD QUESTION for you Bob.???????????????????
To me it means I F*CKED UP. I not fit company to be here. That I too bad to be here. Cuz i can't get my sh*t together good enough. So I bad and get the boot.
Been there, done that.
IT F*CKING SUCKS AND IT HURTS.
Muffled
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