Posted by tabitha on June 29, 2004, at 23:42:21
In reply to Indirect messages are as hurtful to me., posted by shadows721 on June 29, 2004, at 11:22:17
> You know what people? All your meds will not make you any better. I know this for a fact, because I did that med trip for years. In fact, all your meds will make you worse. ...
Wow, what a tidy summary of the message you're hearing. I tried to think of what I'm hearing. Of course this is just my filter, and may not be the message that anyone is intending to send at all. It probably shows a lot more about me than about anyone else, but here's how it goes:
'Hi everyone, I'm new here. I had some really bad experiences with therapy. It didn't help me at all, then I got some meds and I'm so much better. I'm really mad at those therapists for not helping me and not giving me the meds I needed. I don't like feeling helpless and hurt by therapists. Feeling hurt is scary-- it feels better to be mad at them. Here are a whole bunch of websites about how therapists are frauds and don't know what they're talking about. I feel better and better the more I can find reasons to look down on those therapists who didn't give me the help I needed. I'd feel even better if I could get some more people to agree with me and help me stay mad at therapists. Maybe I can even help other people avoid getting hurt by therapists. Yeah, that's what I'll do!
... Hey, what's happening here on this website? Why doesn't anyone appreciate my efforts to protect them from being hurt the way I was? Somebody said *I* was the one hurting people. That is so unfair, I'm just trying to help! I get really hurt and mad when I'm mistrusted and misunderstood like that. It's scary to tell people I'm hurt and mad, so I won't. It feels better to turn the tables on them and show them how I feel by saying things to try and make them feel the same way.
... And why do these people keep asking me about my feelings? They sound just like those therapists! No way am I going to tell these people about my feelings. When people ask about your feelings they are just trying to take advantage of you or confuse you or trick you. I'm not falling for that one. Besides, I don't need to think about my feelings. It's more important to use logical reasoning anyway. Wow, these people really aren't very scientific are they? They are talking gobbeldegook just like those therapists. I don't understand a bit of it.
... I don't understand why this didn't go the way I wanted it to. Oh well, at least arguing with these people gives me energy and keeps me from thinking about other things that don't feel good in my life right now.'
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