Posted by Bob on September 11, 1999, at 15:46:34
In reply to Re: Marital strife to AD's to NOW I WANT OUT! SOS!!, posted by Barb, again on September 10, 1999, at 21:04:01
Jamie, I really like the wish-list idea. It gets at the "little things". It's so easy to spot the big issues ... meanwhile, you get nickle and dimed to death by stuff just barely above our notice.
Barb, I can't give any good advice on marriage, given my role models and my success at avoiding it so far, but I do have to ask one question:
Is your husband as depressed as you?
okay, TWO questions:
Do you think he might benefit from medication?
My older brother (the one stuck holding the keel of the boat, for those who caught that story), just got divorced from his second wife about two months ago. He had his three kids from his first marriage all summer (mom lives in VA, dad in MI), and after the divorce (to #2) he had to takes his kids back. He wound up e-mailing me about having some "very bad thoughts" a few days later and asked me for help. I wish I had the $$ to fly to him from NYC, but I did talk him into getting to his GP to get a referral (don't you LOVE HMO's 8^P )for a pdoc. Instead, his GP prescribed celexa, xanax, and after finding his thyroid levels were way down, took him of the xanax but got him some thyroid meds.
Moral of the story:After hearing this news, EX#2 told him she's gone through similar straights and didn't think about what he might be going through. He's responding to the meds, and they're trying to work things out. Sure, they've got other problems to work out, but those are problems between them, not a problem within one of them that disrupts the relationship.
Cheers,
Bob
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