Posted by Dee on September 10, 1999, at 12:21:36
In reply to Marital strife to AD's to NOW I WANT OUT! SOS!!, posted by Barb on September 10, 1999, at 7:36:33
Hello Barb,
I can certainly relate, and I think most of us on this board can. Living with these conditions is a
hard battle we have to fight every hour of every day. What would be more natural than
sometimes to get so tired, tired that we just want a break. We want to be happy just for a few
minutes, we want to just be an feel loved and safe, to leave the battle even if it is just for a
moment.We just cannot give up. Trust me, when you continue taking care of yourself and your family,
you will eventually get that break.
I understand that it is fairly common to get to this space of tiredness, frustration, hopelessness,
even anger when we are in the process of changing medication. I remember when I was there
last time, and it did seem like a no way out situation. I was so down I couldn't talk to anyone -
luckily I had this board to come to, so I could discharge some of my despair typing messages,
like you are doing. Isn't it great to have this resource.When I go to the space when I feel I just want to give up, I keep saying to myself that it may well
feel overwhelming but my feelings are not facts. Even though there seems to be no end to it, the
fact is: It Will Pass! And I have been right every time so far.You have put in a tremendous effort to take care of yourself. Continue to do so, talk to your
doctor and your therapist about these concerns, and keep reaching out for advise and support.
That way you can make informed decisions concerning your well being.
I firmly believe that the best thing we ( or anybody, for that matter) can do to take care of our
families and those we love is to take care of ourselves.As far as rocky marriage, I am reading a book that answers many of the questions I think we all
ask: How two people get attracted to each other, why does the communication fail in most
relationships, and what can we do to change that. It is called ‘My Lover, My Self’ by David
Kantor, Ph. D. I has helped me a lot to understand myself in a relationship.I have no answers, you know, and I am not trying to pretending to have any. But we’ll all be
here when you need someone to talk (write) to.Lots of Love, and remember: This Will Pass
Dee
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