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Posted by starrs7462 on October 13, 2004, at 1:43:25
i am about to go completly insane with my 16 year old son. he does things just to piss me off and then says dont yell at me or lii run away, we i told him i would help him pack his bags if it was so bad here, i mean the kid has it made all he has to do is check in and be in by 11 during the week and 1 by the weekends i really dont think that is to much to ask. and then i have 2 girls one 14 and 1 13 so man i have alot ahead of me, also going through chemo for cancer and then on top of all that i have depression anxiouty and who knows what else. ahhh just needed to vent but would love to hear from other parents with teens.
candy
Posted by verne on October 13, 2004, at 1:43:26
In reply to does anyone else her have teenagers???, posted by starrs7462 on October 12, 2004, at 12:33:40
I can relate to what you're going through.
I have a nineteen year old daughter. Spent a fortune to get custody when she was 15 and she moved out to live with a boyfriend at 16. Much of this had already been in motion before I became the custodial parent.
It's been rough. She dropped out of school at 16 when she went on a road trip with her mother. I later discovered that she had been smoking since about 12.
She still doesn't have her GED and it's a shame since most of her college is paid for by a trust fund. Of course, I'm not happy with the boyfriend who's 9 years older and also a high-school dropout and heavy smoker. She has a min wage job and he doesn't work.
It's sad. I don't even want to be around her anymore. I'm wondering whether my love was conditional. I'm a borderline so I tend to see things black and white.
Perhaps your two girls will help to keep each other in check and it might be easier than having just one girl. I'm just musing off the top of my head.
I'm glad my parenting days are over. I'm so burned out on holidays and all the must-see kid's movies. Hearing the sounds of a school playground is painful. I like kids - well, at least, I still act like a kid - but I need some distance right now.
verne
Posted by antigua on October 13, 2004, at 1:43:26
In reply to does anyone else her have teenagers???, posted by starrs7462 on October 12, 2004, at 12:33:40
Wow, you're much more lenient than I am w/my son. He's 16 (h.s. junior) and has to be home by 8 or 9 on weeknights and 11 on weekends. I'm a mean mom.
He just got his license and now acts as if he is "entitled" to do whatever he wants. And since we won't get him a cell phone he feels like he doesn't have to keep us informed of his whereabouts. Where do they get their attitude?
My biggest concern is sex. He has a much older girlfriend...
antigua
Posted by AuntieMel on October 13, 2004, at 1:43:26
In reply to Re: does anyone else her have teenagers??? » starrs7462, posted by verne on October 12, 2004, at 16:59:20
It's just so hard to think about loving them when you see them screw up so bad. That's normal.
Posted by AuntieMel on October 13, 2004, at 1:43:28
In reply to does anyone else her have teenagers???, posted by starrs7462 on October 12, 2004, at 12:33:40
It sounds like you have my youngest - only male. But after she experienced a miracle (living til age 18) she did finally settle down and is now in college.
But it was pretty iffy there for a while.
Posted by starrs7462 on October 13, 2004, at 1:43:30
In reply to Re: does anyone else her have teenagers??? » starrs7462, posted by AuntieMel on October 12, 2004, at 17:51:59
thank you all, its been a long road and it only my first one. but my girls see what he is putting me through so maybe keep everyones fingers crossed real hard haha, but he just thinks he he can do anything, i almost give up with everything going on medical with me i just dont have the energy to do all of this with him but we will keep doing what we can til hes 18 sex is a big issue here to im afaid hes gonna come home and say i got so so pregnate, he broke up with his steady girl and now hes just seeing all kindas a girls which really bothers me but the more i say the wrose he will do it so i just dont know anymore.
candy
Posted by daisym on October 13, 2004, at 1:43:31
In reply to Re: does anyone else her have teenagers???, posted by starrs7462 on October 12, 2004, at 18:53:34
I guess I'm another one of those strict moms. My guys are in by 9pm on weeknights and midnight on the weekends. My oldest is away at college (19) and I have a 17 and 13-year old. We still want to know where they are and who they are with.
Sex is always a worry for those of us with teens. And, btw, it isn't just my boys, for those of you with girls. They call and chase more than my guys do! :) Being Catholic, I tell them please wait. Working with teen parents, I tell them to use condomns. And then I pray it stays on.
Grades earn priviledges around here. The first two pretty much get straight As. We have to work with the youngest as he seems awfully happy with a B. I feel very blessed to have great kids. Some of it is the luck of who they fall in with.
But teens are just HARD! Everything is a big, emotional deal. They are exhausting. Hang in there. He will grow up.
Posted by Stressee on October 13, 2004, at 14:30:07
In reply to Re: does anyone else her have teenagers???, posted by daisym on October 12, 2004, at 19:35:35
Hellooo, I'm browsing through and happend to catch this thread. Reading them makes me feel better, I know things with my 16 yr. daughter could be worse. When she was in middle school, she got staight A's, took the ACT, SAT, and scored very high. WE were thinking is was going to go the way we had always thought it would. Ha, when she was a freshman she started to not take school as seriously as before. To make a long story short, this last grade report informed us of two C's, and two B's. What the heck? We, as parents are stressing out over this and her lack of responsability. She keeps putting things off, and I know she can do much better. She has been depressed since her freshman year, and on several anti-depressants. She can't seem to be able to handle the pressure. She has so much going for her, and right now no boyfriend to make matter worse. She doesn't drink or smoke, have sex, and always calls to tell us where she is going. We are currently seeing a PH and hoping she gets herself together pronto. I keek asking myself, what did I do? She has a silver spoon in her hand and doesn't know how to use it, and doesn't care either. Good luck -L
Posted by AdaGrace on October 13, 2004, at 17:09:49
In reply to Re: does anyone else her have teenagers???, posted by Stressee on October 13, 2004, at 14:30:07
I have a 14 yo girl who has been going on 17 for about 10 years. I tend to call her "Miss Thang" which she is not ammused by. I love her dearly and she knows it, but she also know how to "work it" to get her way. She knows I am the disciplinarian, so she goes to daddy for getting her way. She's a social butterfly and can't be bothered with daily chores. Yes it's hard. Very Hard. I tend to lean on her for emotional support, she gives it freely. I love her dearly.
I also have a 12yo son who has discovered girls and has a poster of Jessica Simpson in his closet and I have caught him with scantilly clad pictures, and worse before. This was hard for a mother. Very Hard. I love him for his wonderful sense of humor. It get's me through.
My 10 yo soon to be 11 yo is her onder sister revisited. Only she's a yeller, fighter, coniver, and all around snot. But yes I love her dearly too. Sometimes it's just hard to like her.
Does it get better? I'm sure not.
Posted by starrs7462 on October 13, 2004, at 17:57:18
In reply to Re: does anyone else her have teenagers???, posted by AdaGrace on October 13, 2004, at 17:09:49
first off sorry dr bob didnt relize this board was here, and thanks for all the support today was much better he was back to himself again, now i worry maybe it might have been something he was on that we dont know about, because he acted so out of himself just wonderful now something else to worry about. hopefully this is the last week of chemo and then more test to see whats nexted.
thanks agian
candy
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