Posted by LegWarmers on March 22, 2006, at 10:52:30
In reply to Re: sad » LegWarmers, posted by special_k on March 21, 2006, at 17:37:05
> thanks. yeah, it takes a while to fit in... but then i see other people arriving at the same time (or a little before) and their reception is different... because one is very much into the stuff we are doing now, i guess. and he comes across as very confident. comes up with some great points. and some not so great points - but in virtue of the former... the latter isn't worried about too much. and the other... is into that. but moreover he is very charasmatic and friendly. so socially... he is doing better than usual i guess. i'll be okay. i will. just take some time etc.
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> i'm reassured by my being here for a while before... someone who was very respected said to me... 'i never ask questions in seminars - but sometimes i have a finger on a point' (something to add to a previous point). he said he never has a point of his own. his mind doesn't work that way. and... i think i'm a bit like that too. but then it is probably self confidence too. and when i get anxious i tend to prattle a bit... and be a bit slow on the uptake. so... better to shut up in front of big groups at this point... and just get used to talking to people more one on one and in small groups. i think it mostly is about confidence... and a bit about unfamiliar material. i'm sure it will get better. thank you.And when you get more comfortble with everyone you will become less anxious and more likely to speak with confidence and more often.
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