Posted by Daisym on December 31, 2004, at 17:01:12
In reply to (((Daisy))) I agree with small proviso, posted by 64bowtie on December 31, 2004, at 13:43:53
The problem with movies is that they get to wrap up everything neatly in 2 hours. The question I have not answered for myself is: "what would talking to my family accomplish, for me or for them?" My mother is a smart, dynamic lady who just retired and is enjoying herself, rightly so. She is remarried, as is my dad. I like both their spouses tremendously. Imagine me dumping this out there...so many people would have their lives disrupted by stuff that happened 30 years ago. Including my own children. These are people who don't deserve the disruption or the pain. And what would that get me? I don't need my memories confirmed, I'm not a little kid who needs to be saved and I do want my family in my life.
It is just impossibly hard to think that my mother might have known and not stopped it. But even if she didn't know, some part of me thinks she should have. There were lots of really big signs.
btw, again, unlike the movies, my dad was a PhD, "nice guy" type...not too much drinking, no drugs, nice house, yard, polite children, etc. We looked so normal.
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