Posted by 64bowtie on December 31, 2004, at 13:43:53
In reply to Re: (((Daisy))) » 64bowtie, posted by Daisym on December 31, 2004, at 10:37:37
> My therapist always just raises the question, "did you have a choice?" He strongly believes the Psyche has its own time table. >
<<< If personal power is simply our ability to make a difference, then we can either delay or "hurry" a process, safely...
<<< Also, be direct! Ask Mom what she remembers about the years you are refering to. Time and a gain I've heard the outcome of this line of questioning and:
1. Mom was fogged out on medications, perhaps from surgery or other physical trauma.
2. Dad was scum who had cheated on her so he was no longer welcome in his bed.
3. Mom was just fed up with his drinking....
4. Dad was a despot and Mom was deathly afraid of him.These seem to be the most common stories from all different sources. Each shed light on how we end up best end up holding Mom accountable, from not very to mostly! This approach leaves her un-aware of your agenda. Confrontation without a (social) contract usually turns out badly.
The results is (social) emancipation from the highjacking and blackmailing emotions that might be ruining your days (and nights)!
Rod
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