Posted by fallsfall on July 17, 2004, at 14:02:58
In reply to i think my pdoc's manic and my sister's in love .., posted by karen_kay on July 17, 2004, at 11:15:11
>'i want someone to rescue me. but, that's not going to happen. what i need is to realize that i don't need someone to rescue me. i need to realize that i'm completely capable of saving myself. and doing things for myself. so, i've been stuck in this stupid going nowhere relationship because i'm waiting for someone to rescue me instead fo saving myself. and that, MY FRIEND is what bubba was trying to make me realize. and i JUST realized it. now, it's the DOING it part that's hard.'
Yes, Karen, you are capable of saving yourself. And you will. But please don't confuse being able to save yourself with not needing anyone else (or with needing to "not need" anyone else).
You are the conductor of your life. You need to decide what you will do with your life. But it is perfectly OK to decide that you aren't the best piccolo player, and that you want to find a really good piccolo player for your orchestra. You will need to find the people who will make your life harmonious - they probably won't find you. That is the "saving yourself" part - you have to take the initiative to move your life in the direction you choose. But that doesn't mean that you should be isolated, or that you can't have help from people, or that you can't need people. You are a wonderful person to need (*I* need you!) and a person who can make other people feel good because you need them.
So, my dear, go for it! What do YOU want your life to be?
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