Posted by pegasus on May 21, 2004, at 16:23:14
In reply to A lot of pressure to be a mom, posted by shadows721 on May 21, 2004, at 0:16:13
Wow, it sounds like this hits a lot of people. It helps to hear the ideas about how maybe this is just part of where I'm headed in my life. Maybe there's some future kid out there that really is going to need me. Or maybe the time is just not right yet.
I've heard so many people say to reduce stress and stop trying so hard. But, I don't really know how to do that. I really want to have a child, so we try. But, then, I'm not hanging my whole identity on that. Really, it's going to be ok either way.
I'm in school now to become a counselor, and I think I'd like to work with kids. Sometimes I think that that would be hard to do if I *had* a kid. So, maybe all of this difficulty will end up being helpful in another part of my life. Maybe I'm meant to counsel troubled kids, rather than parent anyone. Or maybe something else altogether.
It's hard, though. I want to be a mom. Period. I don't know how to not really want that. I guess I need to work on accepting whatever happens.
pegasus
poster:pegasus
thread:348262
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20040517/msgs/349333.html