Posted by tootercat on May 20, 2004, at 15:15:29
I totally understand your feelings around maybe never getting to hold your "own" baby only mine comes from another angle. I basically "couldn't" have children of my own or adopted because I didn't feel safe in doing so. I came from a very dysfunctional childhood which then led to alcoholism and drug addiction and made a conscious/unconscious decision not to pass along my "history" Now at 46 I am probably at a place where I could be a wonderful mommy but I do not want to start a family so late. I have an incredible man in my life *finally* who would have been a wonderful father. (he has two grown children) I will now concentrate on enjoying this gloriously happy healthy man/woman relationship and just be a surrogate mommy to you guys on here and to my god-children. My godson and goddaughter are both adopted and are incredible children. I wish you love and happiness in however you achieve your extended family.
Love,
Toots
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