Posted by lonelygirl on April 29, 2004, at 17:45:52
In reply to Nothing Changes, posted by SandyWeb on April 29, 2004, at 12:25:45
Hi Sandy,
I apologize if I’m out of place in posting here, but I have been following this thread and I wanted to say a couple of things.
With regards to your troubles in coming up with rent money, having enough food and clothes for your kids, have you contacted anyone for help? As far as I know, you live in Canada, so I’m not sure how it is there, but here in the US, there are a lot of organizations that can help with those things. St. Vincent de Paul is a good organization; they provide food and sometimes can help with things like rent money and clothes.
Just another thought: I know that it is hard to deal with things alone. I’m sure it will sound silly for me to compare my situation with yours, but I am having a lot of problems in school this semester. There is just so much to deal with, and I don’t have any friends, and it feels so overwhelming. The one thing that has helped me a little bit is that I started seeing a psychologist at my school (I was actually forced to go, as punishment for getting in trouble at school). The weird thing is, when I am talking to him, he is just so calm and rational, and takes things one by one, and it doesn’t seem quite as overwhelming. I think you need something like this, and not necessarily a therapist. Someone who can help you deal with your problems one by one.
I think one of the biggest problems is that the people who want to help you the most aren’t always able to give you what you need. I know you realize that jlynne and LynnDa, for example, really care about you and desperately want to help you, but unfortunately, they are far away from you right now, and they don’t have enough information from you to help you deal with specific problems. Your police friends also seem to care about you, but they are limited in their training and the actions they can take related to their jobs. I was wondering if you might consider asking your police friends if they know of resources in your area where you could go for help. I’ll bet you would be surprised at how many people and organizations are out there wanting to help others, but they don’t know that YOU (Sandy) need help right now, so if they are going to help you, they have to find out what you need first. I know it is hard to do this! I would not have gone to the psychologist myself if I had not been forced to. But that is the only way to get help. You seem to be at least a little comfortable with Andrew and Rob, so maybe you could ask them if they have any suggestions on where to go for help? I know you have a strained relationship with your sister, but would you consider asking if she could help you find assistance?
Your children sound really sweet, by the way, and it sounds like they really love you. I am in college right now, and it is unbelievable how much financial aid is available, in terms of scholarships and student loans. There are a lot of people at my school whose families don’t have the money to send them to college (including people whose parents aren’t college-educated), but they are managing. When a university decides it wants a particular student at the school, the people at the school will work with the student to pull together the financial resources to attend. I assume there are college guidance counselors at the high school who help the kids with picking schools and getting in. So, please don’t think that your current troubles are going to prevent your kids from going to college.
Sandy, I hope you get the help you need… You won’t know, until you try, how many people are willing and eager to help you.
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