Posted by kara lynne on July 3, 2003, at 23:38:25
In reply to talked to friend briefly, posted by Emme on July 3, 2003, at 20:34:28
Hi Emme,
Yes, you make perfect sense. I also have a lot of conflict around the expression of anger. I really understand the impulse to go directly to self punishment after the expression of rage.When you don't respond to the first 20 people who are nasty, the 21st might understandably be shaky. But anger in response to a nasty person is a perfectly understandable response. I know those "unbalanced" responses that come from having suppressed them for so long. But consider that your friend might also have his own issues around anger--his reaction isn't necessarily an accurate guage from which to judge yourself so harshly.
I certainly don't have any answers. It's easy for me to tell you to give yourself a break I would not offer myself. But I am trying.
I'm so glad you're a little better today, and that you have good help available. Love, K.L.
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