Posted by Tabitha on February 16, 2003, at 15:03:38
In reply to Re: My self-esteem needs a shot in the self-esteem, posted by bookgurl99 on February 16, 2003, at 9:17:36
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> Stuff with exes is really hard. It's even harder that your friend is with him. Why do women behave as though there's a huge man shortage, poaching on their friend's men when men make up 49% of the population? it's like, 'that one's still fresh, take him.'A related question-- Why do social groups get so incestuous? I hate it when friends date each other, or date people in series from the same bunch. Eww. It just messes everything up. Can't we all date from outside our tribe? Then if it doesn't work out, the tribe is still intact.
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> i similarly have thoughts that my life is all wrong. for me, it's based on academic and professional achievement. but, if i think i'm worthless for not having a degree, how come i don't think that everyone who doesn't have a college degree is worthless?
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> similarly, do you really think that every single, unmarried, childless woman is worthless? surely you don't really think we are. why not give yourself the same credit?Oh, I know this intellectually. I get so disgusted when my intellectual beliefs get blown away so easily. Just days before this happened, I was feeling good about myself, and feeling good about being single right now, and noticing I wasn't getting the usual Valentine's Day -related sudden urge to latch onto somebody. But, still, after learning this, those feelings were there. I was walking the bookstore, and saw a table full of wedding books, and it hurt. And I've known for a couple years that I don't want to marry again, ever. Yet there it is.
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> i wouldn't be bookgurl99 if i didn't have a book recommendation every now and then. Glance at "if the buddha dated" while you're at the bookstore. :D
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>Thanks, that does look interesting. I like that author.
poster:Tabitha
thread:200748
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