Posted by Ted on December 18, 2002, at 17:59:37
In reply to Please help me, I am so lonely and wish I was dead, posted by PhoenixGirl on December 18, 2002, at 0:18:44
D,
You need to take control of yourself, difficult as that may seem. Here are some things you can try. Do them EVEN IF YOU DON'T LIKE THEM just to get out, meet people, and socialize:
1. folk dancing of any kind. The neat thing about folk dancing is you do NOT need a partner!
2. volunteer work: hospital, homeless shelter, library, etc.
3. night class at a community college (painting, piano, astronomy -- doesn't matter).
4. Join an activity club: hiking, skiing, whatever.
5. Join a city athletic team. Soccer, tennis, and basketball are good choices.Did you change jobs yet? I know that was one of your difficulties. How about the training for the other job idea you had? Did you pursue anything? If not, why?
I don't mean to trivialize how you feel -- I felt the same as you for many years -- but we must all take responsibility for ourselves. When I was single, I went folk dancing 2 nights per week, hiking on weekends, AND I took a music class at a junior college only to meet girls (but the class was fun too). You have to get out and make it happen --- people won't come to you. Do whatever interests you, but make sure it isn't a women-only activity (like don't join a quilting guild).
(btw, I met my wife folk dancing, and we and another couple announced our engagements the same night. It works. really.)
Good luck and take care of yourself. Email if you want to talk more.
Ted
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