Posted by .tabi.T.ha. on August 6, 2002, at 5:47:20
Here's some classic Phil I ran across in the archives, this just jumped out and cracked me up.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020325/msgs/21225.html
Gee, I sure hope Phil comes back. And not just for the laughs.
Here's a really interesting post from Mark H that addresses dealing with conflict on the boards...
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020308/msgs/3520.html
I'm still processing my reactions to the the "expats" thread. I realized I'm getting my buttons pushed over the whole issue of the division in the group. The last 2 weekends I was upset by certain posts, and this weekend it happened again. I noticed that all the posts that upset me are related to the division. I don't understand exactly what it means to me or how to deal with it yet.
I wonder if Mark H's idea of only responding when you feel a connection to the poster is the way to go for me. I've resisted jumping into arguments, but with the "expat" thread I was really hurt. I went off and thought about it, I read and re-read, and thought I'll just state my feelings. (I didn't quite manage to do that, I ended up stating what I thought were the feelings of myself and other people.) I ended up getting more hurt by the replies that seemed to invalidate my feelings.
So I thought maybe the group therapy style doesn't work here. In that situation, you pretty much have to talk it out until everyone sees everyone else's point of view, and there's a resolution. That didn't happen today, and I doubt it can happen in this type of format.
Still confused. Just checking in.
poster:.tabi.T.ha.
thread:28167
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020804/msgs/28167.html