Posted by Dinah on December 14, 2001, at 9:07:12
In reply to Feeling disconnected??, posted by mair on December 14, 2001, at 8:06:29
I definitely identify with this.
One reason this board is great is that you can choose to respond where you feel you have something to say and you don't have to search for something to say. You can write and review what you post so you are less afraid of making a mistake. I tend to do this in verbal conversations too which puts me totally out of the conversational rhythm. And I also frequently have trouble with thought blockage and slow access time to the hard drive of my brain. It is a lot easier to stop and think when you're writing. So the process makes it easier.
Also, I am somewhat disconnected from my family in some ways, and I have few friends. I don't feel I should burden my family with my problems. It certainly isn't appropriate with my son. My husband gets upset and wants to "fix" things. My parents are emotionally insensitive to the point of being hilarious (and it's not just me who thinks so). This board has been a godsend. Thanks Dr. Bob. It makes me feel a tiny bit less dependent on my therapist because there is somewhere else I can say "I feel like killing myself" or "I am having trouble not cutting" and have people not overreact.
I guess it could be a problem if it keeps you from interacting with the people in your real life, but I can honestly say I wouldn't be more intimate with them without this board. There are just too many other impediments.
poster:Dinah
thread:15516
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