Posted by sassyfrancesca on May 9, 2008, at 8:06:25
In reply to help: In relationship w/emotionally abusive man, posted by noelle on March 10, 2008, at 15:17:15
his emotional abuse, all you CAN do is get help for yourself and your son.
I was married to a verbal abuser for 31 years. I finally found the book that saved my life and sanity: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans....PLEASE get that book and read it; make sure you do it in private; the abuser will get angry if he sees you becoming aware of what he is doing.
STOP responding to his abuse; I know it is hard (used to defending yourself; natural response), but there are ways to keep yourself safe while deciding what you want to do.
Know that your son is also being abused. I stayed way too long, but also know that verbal abuse is LITERAL brainwashing.
Hugs, Alice
Get educated and then yo can make some good choices; read the book, get into therapy (BY YOURSELF); make sure the therapist is specificially trained in verbal abuse; if not you will get re-abused....call a domestic violence hot-line (when you are alone); call a women's shelter; there IS help and hope.
I know....I did it....((((Noelle)))
P.S. I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group...a yahoo group; you may want to consider joining us?
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