Posted by tunguska on April 3, 2008, at 7:35:59
In reply to Re: help: In relationship w/emotionally abusive man » karen_kay, posted by nfc on March 25, 2008, at 7:33:43
I understand most of this. My family has an emotionally abusive father too (OAF). We've been married 21 years and his insecurity sucks joy out of most of our daily lives. My children are at the ages where they are starting to see how much I put up with and ask questions like "why is daddy so mean to you?" He justifies his behavior by the fact that is own father dealt with things by beating the snot out of his wife and kids and my oaf doesn't do that so he's the better man. We have no social life as a family anymore and every day with him is exhausting. I've been berated for my messiness, the fact that I'm gone to work all day (he wanted to be a stay at home dad and now he complains that he has to do everything at the house - well duh) even for requesting paper bags a the grocery store. I once saw a show where there was this thing called a despair squid that attached itself to you and sucked all sense of joy of your psyche, being married to a guy like this is pretty much the same deal.
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