Posted by Meri-Tuuli on March 31, 2007, at 10:02:02
In reply to P.S., posted by DannaB on March 23, 2007, at 3:08:21
Hello!
Well I was going to send you a babblemail, but you have it switched off! Anyway.
I know exactly how you feel - my mother invalidates my feelings all the time. Its horrible and leads to lots of arguements and which, of course, are my fault.
Anyway. I really think it is totally 100% okay to ask your successul brother for money. You're family!!! And I find his excuse abit thin. Of course his wife is going to say no - its not in her interests to help you.
Well I'm in a similar position to you - I'm a struggling grad student, with a successful older brother, and he happily pays me £200/month which is like $400/month. I didn't ask for it, he just offered! Of course I'm not going to complain - although I do feel slightly guilty about it, but then, he earns alot and it'd only go on other things (he likes to have lots of exotic girlfriends who really only see the $) so it doesn't bother me one bit.
So I think you just ask again - just say you want a small amount to help. I mean, if he's earning megabucks a little bit for his sister isn't going to hurt him is it? And ask him why his wife doesn't think its a good idea. It sounds abit mean and heartless of her in my opinion, particulary as you don't have a father or come from a comfortable family (neither do I).
Feel free to babblemail if you want.
Kind regards
Meri
poster:Meri-Tuuli
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