Posted by DannaB on March 23, 2007, at 3:07:18
In reply to Re: Family doesn't validate my feelings » DannaB, posted by kninelover on March 23, 2007, at 1:47:35
Well, interestingly enough my mother went to him (without my knowledge) to ask for him to help me since it would be no skin off his back. He said that he had to run all decisions by his wife, and that she didn't like the idea. So...if it's so wrong for me to want his help why did she ask him herself?
As for why she was upset with me, I think it has to do with her inability to help me herself. She could provide very little support, financial and otherwise, to us children growing up. I think it's hard for her to see me struggling and not be able to help me.
In any case, I can respect your difference of opinion, but I still think that one can validate one's feelings ("you sound upset...I'm sorry you're feeling upset") without agreeing with them.
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