Posted by seamus2 on March 3, 2007, at 12:00:40
In reply to Re: Advice on neediness, posted by DannaB on February 20, 2007, at 22:14:32
Danna,
itsmee's advice seemed really good and to the point. I think you should focus on being more indepdendent, too. One person, no matter how hard they try, won't be able to satisfy all your needs and it's folly to think otherwise. One little step at a time, like itsmee said: just do simple, easy things on your own which you enjoy (even just it's just a little bit).
Personally, I just got out of a relationship primarily because my partner had gotten too needy. He couldn't make decisions without my support, was constantly in need of reassurance and the difference between the time I spent taking care of him vs. the time he spent taking care of me grew too large.
They say you can't change another person, but if he'd been less needy we might still be together.
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