Posted by LJRen on December 22, 2006, at 23:43:57
In reply to Re: bi-polar and being married, posted by khfreibe on December 22, 2006, at 11:15:13
> I am printing this out and taking it to him, without telling him that it was in response to something I wrote. This is exactly what he needs to hear.
>Wow, I'm really flattered. I hope he got something out of it. I take it you printed the linked message & not my response to your post. He would've recognized his words in my response wouldn't he?
> I used to be your bi-polar co-worker, but I have worked on healing, and I am a healthier version now. I would say that 78-84% of the time I approach issues the way they should be.. but it doesn't matter, it always gets turned around on me, so that part I am doing.
>So glad to hear you've gotten better. You must be really proud, you should be. Too bad your past behavior & disorder are used against you today despite the work you've done and how you've changed. That's an underhanded way to avoid taking responsibility of one's own actions. Of course, in my dealings w/ men, (and I'm not sexist here - just my prevalent observations) they have a really hard time admitting when they're wrong. Something to do w/ their egos I think.
> Thanks for your help, maybe you can talk to me some more this week. I am either going to get the tools I need to fix this marriage or the strength, brains, courage, whatever it is I need to remove myself from it.. I just need people to stay here for me and not to abandon me when I don't make the decision they think I should make.. you have to have the right tools to climb a mountain, and that's what I'm here for, to get the tools and learn how to use them.
Sure, I'll be happy to talk w/ you anytime. I understand the need to have consistent support. I recently had my best friend disappear on me with barely a word explaining why. Having a few other major stressors going on in my life at that time, his desertion was very bad timing and very devastating. Gave my happy pills a run for their money. Fortunately, the roller coaster ride has come to a stop for now and hopefully I'll have enough sense not to get back on it ever again or at least not for a while. For you, I hope your husband will choose to open his eyes & his heart so that the two of you can work together to make those good times the prevailing ones of your life.
Best wishes,
Ren
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