Posted by LJRen on December 21, 2006, at 11:32:18
In reply to Re: bi-polar and being married, posted by khfreibe on December 21, 2006, at 10:47:51
I feel for you. I suffer from depression and that's it. Don't have a relationship but my father seems to think the reason for that is b/c of the way I am.
I can only try to imagine what it's like to be mentally/emotionally healthy and live w/ someone who has a mental disorder. When your mind functions properly, you have healthy thoughts, your emotions don't go crazy w/ you in tow (God I wish I knew what that was like). This is what it's like for them, but they cannot fathom what it is like to be us. So, I speculate that two opposites (I assume your husband isn't bipolar or anything else) who are together has got to take a lot of effort and patience and a LOT of understanding on both sides. Both would have to realize that your minds function in very different ways, you see the world from different perspectives.
From your post it almost sounds like your husband focuses on your disorder? Does he place blame on you for the problems between you? I would feel stressed out too if someone was always ganging up on me b/c of something I couldn't help.
Best wishes,
Ren
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