Posted by DannaB on December 16, 2006, at 21:39:12
I'm in a new relationship. This is extremely stressful to me.
I am extremely fond of this person. I feel that he adds a lot to my life in the form of companionship, understanding, etc. I truly enjoy being with him.
However, due to my childhood (a bad one), I have had NO modeling of healthy relationships in my life. I find myself saying and doing things and then realizing I am being difficult or manipulative or hard-headed (i.e. not hearing something that was stated quite clearly). These are not things that I do on purpose, and I always apologize when I recognize it, but the fact is, relationships don't come easy to me. Add to this the fact that I'm insecure and it's hard for me to believe that this man could like me as much as I like him.
Is it possible for me to "learn" to have a healthy relationship in the context of a relationship? Other than therapy (which I'm in), I don't know how else I can do it. But I'm afraid to lose my boyfriend in the meantime. He seems to really have a problem with my insecurities.
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