Posted by wildcardII on July 11, 2006, at 6:11:04
In reply to Re: Time to Get Over It » wildcardII, posted by Joan797 on July 10, 2006, at 23:44:10
but you can, you just feel so overwhelmed in the same cycle that you don't see it...
i was in a really bad situation being a single mom w/ no family, money, place to go, etc.. i felt so lost and scared and trapped. i took the first step and then had doubts like always but every time a negative "i can't do this' thought wld. creep in my head i would get rid of it w/ an "i CAN do this and no one will stop me but me". it wasn't easy at all. self doubt, fear, etc., all tried and tried to take over but somehow i fought back and just did the next step and the next and now i look back and once i did what i had to, i was the happiest i've ever been. i realized *i* could do it, even w/ the negative feedback of, "you'll fail"... it's just as easy to convince ourselves that we 'can' do something than it is to convince ourselves we 'can't'. unfortunately a lot of us come from pasts that never helped us to believe in ourselves much. that's where i still tell myself to this day that I AM NOT WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME BUT WHAT I CHOOSE TO BECOME...that is a favorite of mine. hang in there
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